How to Transform an Argument

Tempers flare. Tension rises. Argument in full swing. What do you say…or not say?

So many of us just bite our tongue because we believe that that will stop the argument and make things better. And it will stop the argument because it takes two to argue, but it might not make things better. Holding back the words can sometimes push the emotions we are feeling deeper inside. The title of Karol K. Truman’s book says it all, Feelings Buried Alive Never Die. 

The feelings we are usually feeling during an argument are not typically feelings of love! We usually are experiencing hate, hurt, resentment, confusion, irritation, anger…and the list goes on. When we bite our tongue, these feelings get buried alive.

The Institute of HeartMath in Boulder Creek, California has done tons of research on the physiological effect of emotions on our body. Emotions have a large capacity to drain your energy or renew your energy. From blood pressure and digestion changes to clarity of thinking, emotions have a profound influence on the way the body works! They can facilitate the coordination or contribute to discord of the body systems

Now, you can still bite your tongue in an argument to stop it, but first change your emotion. Change your emotion to appreciation, love, or gratitude. Out of love for yourself and the other person, stop the argument.

Look at How to Resolve Any Argument