Have you ever had a good day? What made it good?
Have you ever had a bad day? What made it bad?
If, at the end of your day, a friend or a family member were to ask you, “How was your day?”, how do you know what to answer? What do you base your response on? How do you judge whether your day was good or bad?
If you are like most people, you evaluate your day based on whether or not things went the way you wanted them to. If things go according to plan, then the day is good. If things do not go according to plan, then the day is bad.
A “good day” gives most people a sense of inner peace. A “bad day” gives a lack of inner peace - an inner turmoil, tension, anxiety.
I heard a saying recently: “If your peace depends on everything going right, that’s not peace, that’s control.”
And this is a fragile, disempowering, and exhausting way to live your days!
Fragile because then the status of your day can change in an instant and your inner peace is gone.
Disempowering because then your peace is not within your self-agency - it’s more of a crapshoot.
Exhausting because you actually can’t control external circumstances, no matter how hard you try.
True peace is not the absence of problems. It comes from acceptance of uncertainties and going with the flow of life. It's about shifting focus from controlling the uncontrollable to managing your own reactions and finding steadiness even in chaos.
True peace is about understanding that you can’t control everything but you can control how you respond to it.
True peace is about resilience.
Stable, empowering, energizing.
Imagine if we judged how well our day went based on our response to events that day. Having “good days” then would be our choice, not luck. You could boost the number of good days you have. Bad days might still happen - you might not respond to events in the way you would like, such as impatience, anger, anxiety - and that’s ok! But you could have more good days than bad.
Imagine what would be different if the next time you were asked, “How was your day?”, you were able to respond “I chose to make it good.”
If you’re ready to build the skills that make that possible, I invite you to book a free 30-minute discovery call and see what support could look like.
Here’s to conquering stress.
With heart,
Louise
The Stress Experts
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