Updates from The Stress Experts

What If You're Afraid To Be Clear?

Wed, 12 Aug 2026 20:54:00 CDT

I’ve been struggling with getting clear and making decisions.

Whether it is a decision I have to make for my business or just deciding what to have for lunch, I dance back and forth and say, “I don’t know.”

Then I add more and more pressure to myself:

“Just choose already!! Do SOMETHING!”

But the more pressure I add, the more “I don’t know” I get—and the more frustrated I get with myself.

I used to think it was because I’m just not good at making decisions. It’s just who I am. And honestly, that has been a source of shame.

Then I started thinking...

"So What Should I Be Telling Myself?"

Wed, 22 Jul 2026 11:54:41 CDT

There’s something that many of my clients don’t understand before coming to see me.

They often believe that if they could just change their thinking, they would finally feel the way they want to feel. More confident. More calm. More motivated. More at peace.

While our thoughts certainly matter, what many people don't realize is that these internal experiences aren't created by thinking alone. They're deeply influenced by what's happening in the body—particularly the nervous system.

One of the questions I hear often is, "So what should I be telling myself?" It's a great question—but it's often the wrong place to start. Before our thoughts can change our experience, our nervous system often needs to feel safe enough to receive them.

Why does this matter?

I Stopped Following My Own Advice

Wed, 08 Jul 2026 20:24:53 CDT

I recently realized that I had stopped following my own advice.

I have had a pretty busy year so far - expos, workshops, conferences, photography and editing for a friend’s wedding, with a nearly-full client load.

Since the beginning of the year, I have had my internal throttle set on high - “pedal to the metal” so to speak. I’ve been pushing myself to complete one task to make room for another, planning ahead, and trying to balance the load of several projects at once because their event dates were close together.

Every day for months, my first thought was, “What do I need to get done today?”

And my second thought was, “How can I squeeze that in between my scheduled clients?”

I felt constant internal pressure, not only from the deadlines, but from my own desire to do more than just a good job. I wanted everything to be exceptional. The pressure followed me into the evenings and weekends.

And then, quite suddenly, my schedule cleared up (other than still seeing my one-on-one clients).

But the internal pressure continued...

Your Most Important Responsibility

Wed, 24 Jun 2026 20:16:04 CDT

The world can feel heavy at times, there’s no doubt about that. Whether it's challenging news, concerns about the future, pressures at work, or responsibilities at home, many people find themselves carrying an increased emotional load.

We spend energy every day. We care for our families and friends, meet deadlines, solve problems, and try to keep up with the demands of life. While much of this is meaningful, it also draws on the very resource that many people forget to monitor - their own inner battery...

No Wonder You're Overwhelmed

Wed, 10 Jun 2026 13:49:00 CDT

I am subscribed to receive emails from HeartMind Institute, a transformational education platform dedicated to helping individuals step into their fullest, most heart-centered expression of life. They offer virtual summits, online courses, and a supportive community.

One email I received has stayed with me. Not because it offered a new technique or strategy, but because it highlighted the sheer volume of what modern humans are being asked to carry every day.

As I read it, I found myself thinking, "No wonder so many people feel overwhelmed."

I want to share it with you because I think it helps explain why you may be feeling exhausted, overloaded, reactive, or like you're barely keeping up. Sometimes understanding the load we're carrying can be just as important as learning how to carry it.

Here it is...